Super exciting news today! I am really pleased to announce that Lucy of Lucy’s Corsetry and I will be hosting a special corsetry meet-and-greet on March 22nd! This event is sponsored by Orchard Corset and Old School Pinups, and I’m really thrilled to be a part of it.
Ok, so my bf has a serious issue with lace ((it's a texture thing with him, it bugs him out because it isn't soft/smooth)) and even though I obviously buy my bras/undies for my own use and taste, I would like to get something that he'd enjoy as well. However, I've had a difficult time finding something that would make us both happy since I am a sucker for girly, cute undergarments((thus the lace)). Are there any sites that could cater to both of us?
Same sites I always recommend: HerRoom, ASOS, Figleaves, and Bare Necessities. They all carry a range of brands in a range of sizes and a range of styles…so you can sit down with your SO and find something you both like. You might also want to try Journelle and Faire Frou Frou.
Hi, I was wondering how old were you when you first got into lingerie? And do you think lingerie is man's thing or a woman's thing? because I think if a women is into lingerie and love it so much then they should be into it for themselves but then again pleasing their man with it is also entertaining. What do you think, do you think lingerie was made for pleasing guys or pleasing a woman's self esteem. Me I think lingerie was made for women to dress up for themselves just like everyday clothes
I first became seriously interested in it when I was 20 or 21, and I started blogging about it when I was about 24, first as Stockings Addict and then as The Lingerie Addict.
A core principle of The Lingerie Addict is that lingerie is something women buy for themselves - whether that’s for the purposes of fashion, function, or even something else…like fetish or sexuality. While buying lingerie that your partner (who may not necessarily be a man) also enjoys can be a part of that, it’s not the focus of TLA.
Hello! I don't know if you can help me with this, but I so desperately want a little scallop shell looking bralette. I've seen pictures of them, you know, with the scallop edges and accents that looks like shell ridges, but all I can find are those bras people wear to raves and that is not what I'm interested in. Have you ever seen anything like this or know what it's called? Thank you!
Hmmm…I think I know what you’re talking about (though a picture would really help), but I haven’t seen any scallop shell bralettes recently. Maybe search Etsy and see if you can get one custom-made?
Hi! I was wondering if you knew of any good online retailers where I could get decent, pretty lingerie for small chested girls, that was under 50 dollars? Love your blog, thank you x
Heya, thanks for the compliment. Like I always say, the more details you can give me, the more specific my recommendations for you can be. Based off the info you’ve given me, I’d try the usual names: Bare Necessities, HerRoom, Figleaves, and ASOS. I’d also take a look at Yandy, Babygirl Boutique, and Lingerie Diva. The latter three in particular specialize in inexpensive lingerie.
Hey, it's Sophie from Waistedlives! We're having a corset community tinychat tonight and I wanted to extend an invitation to you, in case you were interested! We don't get up to a whole lot of intellectual conversation, but it's still fun!
I missed this, but thanks for the invite. I’ve also never used TinyChat before.
I'm very petite, 4'11", where can I find stockings?? :(
I’d actually recommend the same shops from the last stockings question. If you’re looking for specialty sizing, try a specialty stockings retailer. StockingsHQ, Secrets in Lace, MyTights, and Stockingirl are all great places to start.
Hi! Do you have any advice on where to look for bras with pretty backs for backless tops or dresses? I'm looking to spend no more than 60 dollars and would prefer something with support. Thanks!
In terms of general places to look, it’s the same three I always recommend: Figleaves, Bare Necessities, and HerRoom. ASOS may also have something nice as they produce a lot of trendy styles with their own in-house line. Even Lane Bryant has had some strappy styles lately. However, if you’re looking for specific recommendations, it would really help to know your size.
Thank you so much for talking about shallow breasts! I recently got measured because there was no way I was a C cup anymore. Armed with my new big size, I ordered bras online and they gaped terribly at the top. Now I understand why!
Hi Cora! I need some advice on hose/stockings. I'm thin (around 130 pounds) and almost 5'11", and I recently bought some hose and stockings from Berkshire. However, they both got large runs after only one or two wears, and the stockings weren't even long enough to reach my garter. Do you have any recommendations for longer/higher quality hose? Oh, also I would prefer to keep it around a lower price point, perhaps under $15.
hi! I have a slightly different fitting problem: I measure at stores as a 34C, but my mom thinks I'm a 32, and her 32C bras fit me fine... in the band. But no bra has ever fit in the cup. I seem to have small but "bottom-heavy" breasts: I fill out the lower half of the cup fine, but the whole upper half is empty. On the other hand, B cups feel too tight! All my bras have been of the generic Aerie/Maidenform demi-cup type - am I wearing the wrong style? Do I need balconettes, maybe?
I would start by trying to get a size that’s a better fit for you, and then moving into finding a style that makes you feel comfortable.
32C and 34C, while both C cups, are not equivalent sizes. The cups in a 32C bra are actually smaller than the cups in a 34C bra because bra sizing is volumetric (i.e. it’s the combination of the cup and the band that gives your your size, not just the cup or band alone).
So if you wanted to try a 32 band bra, because you find it’s more comfortable or what have you, then start with a 32D, as that’s the ‘sister size’ to a 34C (i.e. the cup volume is the same).
Once you’ve figured out a size that works for you (band is parallel to the ground, gore tacks, breasts fully contained within the cups, etc.), then it’s time to start talking styles.
It sounds like you may have a shallower breast profile (as opposed to say, a full breast profile). My breasts are also “bottom heavy,” and I can’t fill out the top part of many bra styles. I find that full cups are not a good fit for my breasts as I get wrinkling or gapping in the top part of the cup. Demi, balconette, and plunge styles work very well for me. I also like some cut and sewn styles (like Claudette), but you may still get a bit of wrinkling in the top of the cup even with those.
If you’re finding that nothing from say, Aerie or Maidenform, works for you, then it could be that those brands just aren’t a good fit your breasts, and you should try others. A big part of bra fit is honestly just trial and error. In addition to Claudette, I find that Natori is another brand that works really well for me. Both of those are higher priced than either Aerie or Maidenform, but if you’d like to stay within that price range, Target may have some styles that are a good fit for you.
Hi :) I've recently switched from wearing underwire bras to "bralettes" and I wanted to buy some that had the same sort of lining as the weird foam cup inserts that are in some swimsuits, (I have no idea what it is called) but I don't know what to search for, I tried searching "soft-cup bra" but it seemed like they were all mesh lined and I want the thicker lining, do you know what to search for? I'm a 30D so I don't need much support but I don't want my nipples to show through the thin cups
Bralettes are usually unlined. That’s part of the whole lack of structure thing that bralettes are good for. I do know that Ohhh Lulu, who makes some gorgeous bralettes, will add foam padding to any of her styles for an extra $15.00. You may also want to try searching for “wireless” or “wire free” bras instead of bralettes. A wirefree style is more likely more to have a contour cup or some foam padding, as opposed to a bralette style (for example, this Tommy Hilfger wirefree bra and this Cosabella wirefree bra). I hope this helps with your search!
Do you know anything about the brand Dream Fit? I found a bra that was really comfortable and fit me well but I can't find any other like it. I looked online and couldn't find anything or at any store. It seems to be the only one of it's kind even though it's perfect.
No, I don’t know anything about them. A quick Google search shows that there’s a Dream Fit brand sold at Walmart.com though, so if it’s the same, maybe try there?
I love lingerie but I'm shy to show it off to my hubby... Ugh I want to show off some skin but I still want to tease him a bit, plus I want to feel sexy!! Do you have an recommendations? Your blog is far beyond amazing!!
Thank you for the compliment. However, without knowing anything about your taste, size, or personal preferences, I can’t make a recommendation. The world of lingerie is really, really big. I don’t know what sexy means to you. I don’t know what kinds of items you’re looking for. I don’t even know what your budget is or what your favorite color is. I’m more than happy to make recommendations to people, but you do have to give me more to go on than this.
My girlfriend has a poor self image and I'm hoping that by buying her some lingerie I can help her feel sexy. What sort of style (conservative, I suppose) could ease her into the idea? PS: she's very petite.
Without knowing anything about her tastes, size, or personal preferences, I can’t make a recommendation. The world of lingerie is vast; it’s not reasonable to expect a complete stranger to pick something ‘out of the blue’ that your girlfriend will like.
In addition, I’m reluctant to position lingerie as a “cure” or “fix” to poor self-image. Do you think your girlfriend would appreciate a gift of sexy lingerie? Or is this a gift that’s primarily for you? Not every woman enjoys lingerie, and that’s perfectly fine.