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When Body Snark Becomes Even Uglier: The Problem with Calling People ‘T***y’

Edit: I’ve censored the T-word in this Tumblr post, and in the article title, but not in the text of blog post. I’ve also added a trigger warning. The reason is because the entire impetus behind this post is how I’ve been called the T-word (which I make clear is a slur), how being called that is used as a form of gender policing, and how that’s also reinforcing transphobia.


Edit 2: I’ve also censored the word within the article body.

Filed under LGBTQ transgender lingerie the lingerie addict lingerie addict body snark body image

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“A word on “Curves” 1 (n): All bodies have curves. Outside of elbows, I have yet to see a body built of right angles. I get “Real Women Have Curves” is, like empowerment training wheels and stuff, but the way to self-esteem and collective empowerment is NOT thru responding to hate with re-branded hate. To rob a body of it’s ‘real-ness’ or ‘woman-ness’ based on small size is just as shitty as making big size a source of spite and invisibility. Shaming is not sexy, no matter what the size packaging.”

~ Cherry Tart

Filed under cherry tart body snark size sizeism body shame body hate body positive

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I hate images like this so, so, SO much. swiczeniuk: sazquatch: chulaababy011: sazquatch: trinaflower: chulaababy011: #AWomanWithoutCurves #Curves #Ass #Hips #Waist Women #BodyParts #Thickness #Thick . #LoveYourCurves #LoveYourBody . <3 This is the most stupid fucking thing I’ve seen all day.  1. Way to objectify a woman (simply put). 2. I get you’re trying to be more body positive towards bigger girls, but you’re being counter intuitive because you’re making thin girls feel unworthy, comparing them to useless attire. Women come in all shapes and sizes, and just because there is a stigma towards overweight girls or just bigger curvier girls in general, it doesn’t mean that it is okay to make them feel better by means of degrading and hating on smaller girls. You are giving thin girls more reason to hate themselves, as if the media hasn’t done enough harm. Everyone has the right to love their own body but it isn’t okay to leech upon the happiness of others. 3. You don’t know where to put your hands? What about around her shoulder? Hold her hand? Don’t touch her at all? You can shove your hands up your misogynistic ass. Go fuck yourself.  Trina’s commentary.All this hateful nonsense is doing, is stipulating a new set of standards that women feel like they have to live up to, instead of promoting body love across the board. I get that larger/curvier women are told not to take up space, called undesirable, not selected for high fashion house modelling as often, even bullied in their everyday life, but the way to love yourself is not through stomping on your fellow women, it’s by acknowledging that the patriarchy which defines your body as unacceptable is in the wrong. Instead of reinforcing a system whereby women’s bodies are put on trial - which will be used to oppress you in the future, don’t kid yourself - dismantle the system. Are You Bitches Serious ? Its A Fucking Picture . No One Is Saying There’s anything Wrong With Thin, Fat, Skinny, ect Women . ITS JUST A FUCKING PICTURE . How Bout You Become Less Insecure With Yourselves Before Opening Up Your Irrelevant Mouths . Smh, Damn Man People Can’t Say Anything , Put Pictures Up, Write Something, Without Bitches Like Ya Getting All Sensitive . Grow The Fuck Up . I’m going to clarify something for you, since you’ve called me a bitch in such a hostile manner, so listen closely. A picture can express a harmful message. Yes, this is a picture, but it has harmful implications. It is suggesting there is something wrong with thin bodies, that they are as undesirable and useless as jeans without pockets. If you cannot see that connection in the picture, that is your own problem.I’m a curvaceous woman. I have what are commonly defined as curves, and this picture does not make me insecure in the least. That is not the problem here for me, so try again. The problem is that this picture is shaming thin bodies, suggesting they are not as good as curvaceous bodies, and that is never okay. That is bad. I am not criticising it because I’m upset it’s excluding me (and even if I was, that would be ok because this picture shames people and they are allowed to be upset). I am criticising it because it oppresses women. How about you read the commentary before firing back with hateful, ignorant, actually irrelevant to the thread bullshit?You put something on a public forum, you open it up to criticism. People are ALLOWED TO CRITICISE YOUR OPINIONS AND THE PICTURES YOU POST. If you didn’t want to invite criticism, you should have printed it up and glued it on your wall where only you could see it. Your sense of entitlement and lack of critical engagement with the writing before spitting back a defence is ridiculous You could explain as clearly, and simply as possible, and people this utterly stupid wouldn’t be able to understand. Just one look at her (yes, her) tumblr shows how lobotomised she is. 

I hate images like this so, so, SO much.

swiczeniuk:

sazquatch:

chulaababy011:

sazquatch:

trinaflower:

chulaababy011:

#AWomanWithoutCurves #Curves #Ass #Hips #Waist Women #BodyParts #Thickness #Thick . #LoveYourCurves #LoveYourBody . <3

This is the most stupid fucking thing I’ve seen all day. 

1. Way to objectify a woman (simply put).

2. I get you’re trying to be more body positive towards bigger girls, but you’re being counter intuitive because you’re making thin girls feel unworthy, comparing them to useless attire. Women come in all shapes and sizes, and just because there is a stigma towards overweight girls or just bigger curvier girls in general, it doesn’t mean that it is okay to make them feel better by means of degrading and hating on smaller girls. You are giving thin girls more reason to hate themselves, as if the media hasn’t done enough harm. Everyone has the right to love their own body but it isn’t okay to leech upon the happiness of others.

3. You don’t know where to put your hands? What about around her shoulder? Hold her hand? Don’t touch her at all?

You can shove your hands up your misogynistic ass. Go fuck yourself. 

Trina’s commentary.
All this hateful nonsense is doing, is stipulating a new set of standards that women feel like they have to live up to, instead of promoting body love across the board.

I get that larger/curvier women are told not to take up space, called undesirable, not selected for high fashion house modelling as often, even bullied in their everyday life, but the way to love yourself is not through stomping on your fellow women, it’s by acknowledging that the patriarchy which defines your body as unacceptable is in the wrong.

Instead of reinforcing a system whereby women’s bodies are put on trial - which will be used to oppress you in the future, don’t kid yourself - dismantle the system.

Are You Bitches Serious ? Its A Fucking Picture . No One Is Saying There’s anything Wrong With Thin, Fat, Skinny, ect Women . ITS JUST A FUCKING PICTURE . How Bout You Become Less Insecure With Yourselves Before Opening Up Your Irrelevant Mouths . Smh, Damn Man People Can’t Say Anything , Put Pictures Up, Write Something, Without Bitches Like Ya Getting All Sensitive . Grow The Fuck Up .

I’m going to clarify something for you, since you’ve called me a bitch in such a hostile manner, so listen closely. A picture can express a harmful message. Yes, this is a picture, but it has harmful implications. It is suggesting there is something wrong with thin bodies, that they are as undesirable and useless as jeans without pockets. If you cannot see that connection in the picture, that is your own problem.

I’m a curvaceous woman. I have what are commonly defined as curves, and this picture does not make me insecure in the least. That is not the problem here for me, so try again. The problem is that this picture is shaming thin bodies, suggesting they are not as good as curvaceous bodies, and that is never okay. That is bad. I am not criticising it because I’m upset it’s excluding me (and even if I was, that would be ok because this picture shames people and they are allowed to be upset). I am criticising it because it oppresses women.

How about you read the commentary before firing back with hateful, ignorant, actually irrelevant to the thread bullshit?

You put something on a public forum, you open it up to criticism. People are ALLOWED TO CRITICISE YOUR OPINIONS AND THE PICTURES YOU POST. If you didn’t want to invite criticism, you should have printed it up and glued it on your wall where only you could see it.

Your sense of entitlement and lack of critical engagement with the writing before spitting back a defence is ridiculous

You could explain as clearly, and simply as possible, and people this utterly stupid wouldn’t be able to understand. Just one look at her (yes, her) tumblr shows how lobotomised she is. 

Filed under no body snark body hate stop it

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Thanks for sharing! :) pearl-button: This has to be the best and most accurate article about body image I’ve ever read.  Respect for people’s bodies goes both ways. It is hypocritical to ask people to respect and embrace your body type if you’re mocking and making fun of other people’s body types. Women come in all shapes and sizes. We’re all beautiful. We’re all real. And it doesn’t matter if you’re a size 6 or a size 16. If you’re for body positivity, then be for body positivity…even when those bodies aren’t shaped like yours. Otherwise, you’re just singing the same old song. And I’m really not interested in hearing it again.

Thanks for sharing! :)

pearl-button:

This has to be the best and most accurate article about body image I’ve ever read. 


Respect for people’s bodies goes both ways. It is hypocritical to ask people to respect and embrace your body type if you’re mocking and making fun of other people’s body types.

Women come in all shapes and sizes. We’re all beautiful. We’re all real. And it doesn’t matter if you’re a size 6 or a size 16. If you’re for body positivity, then be for body positivity…even when those bodies aren’t shaped like yours. Otherwise, you’re just singing the same old song. And I’m really not interested in hearing it again.

Filed under body image body snark self esteem