“However, I must be honest and tell you the real secret behind the break up. While my issue with my former love is about size and also about quality (ask me about that another day!), it’s a deeper issue that burns my britches. What really bothers me about my ex, Victoria’s Secret, is that it even though it was about me, it was never really about me. From the fashion show to the ad campaigns, the purpose of displaying lingerie was not about me delighting in my own pleasures and feeling confident and empowered by the very articles I placed closest to my skin. Nor was it about me luxuriating in my femininity and choosing to own my sensuality as a woman without having to be overtly sexy or swing the other way to being puritanical and prudish. Nope!

It was, as it has been, about the male perspective. What does he want to see in lingerie? Who does he want to see it on? This limited perspective can be dangerous. I’m more than an object to be viewed and inspected, but a being of depth and dimension. A woman who dwells in the fullness of herself and deserves to be treated as such! Which is why I took my love, attention, and business to small boutiques, online retailers, and other stores that appreciated me for all that I was.”

(Read the full article on The Lingerie Addict.)

Cora Harrington, founder and chief editor of The Lingerie Addict, is familiar with the downsides of shape wear.

“As someone who’s worn both vintage-style girdles and modern-day shape wear, I don’t think today’s designs are any easier than yesteryears,” she says. “We do have better fabrics and materials today, and knit shape wear tends to be more flexible than the cut-and-sewn kind, but shape wear is shape wear. It’s meant to mold your body in a particular way.”

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